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here are some fotos from Naples taken the last weekend in September.

ah the weekend, how (relatively) enjoyable it was. Friday came and went, I left work a little early to get home and clean the basement with a few friends, how god awful that was.

Saturday went very well. i was up early with the g/f and we were off to my parents house and then to Naples to pick some grapes and walk around the fest. the ride was beautiful, as much as i dislike NY for its winters and its unpredictable weather pattern, the fall here is beautiful and like no other place, especially when you are driving through the country side & by Bristol mountain. i do have some pictures and ill be sure to post them up. a side note; i have been using Photobucket for a while now, yet there does not seem to be any decent support for it through WordPress…I wish someone would get on that soon so I don’t have to switch to Flikr…

so Sunday was all well and good. went to the g/f’s mothers house for linguine & clam sauce *which i do not enjoy 1 bit*. we actually did not end up leaving from there until about 730ish so we, rather I, just called it a night and headed home instead of going to my Fathers place. so all in all, it was a pretty decent weekend i would say.

now, onto sex. what the hells the big deal? i mean sex is sex, yea it differs from person to person of course, yet the end result is still the same. climax. i understand this is not the end result for the vast majority of women and that is actually why i will be writing today. i suppose i may have differing views on sex as compared to most mid 20 year old young men, so i’ll share them.

it started with my first ‘real girlfriend’, and by that i mean i was in High School and we were ‘in love’. we dated for just about 3 years. we had our ups and downs, i am sure, yet unfortunately i do not remember. what i do remember is that we had sex 3, perhaps 4 times throughout the entire time we were together. we were each others first so it was an occasion i’m sure. yet, from that relationship i learned so much.

i’ve learned that sex is something that should always be enjoyed, always. i am sure all of us have heard people arguing about their sex life, whether it be not enough sex or too much sex, too fast, too slow. sex is a wonderful thing, last i remember at least, and time should not be spent arguing about it. try to simply stop thinking and enjoy the acts and the person you are with, you may just experience something totally different that you ever have.

i’ve learned that sex is a huge part of any relationship. there is no denying that there is the intimate & passionate side in each of us that cannot be ignored. if there are problems with the sex that you are having talk about it with your spouse, of course, but do not do it in the bedroom!

boy o boy, i don’t know exactly where i am going with this but theres no stopping me now! sex is usually a very touchy subject, even amongst the most open of couples. when and if there is a problem it is best to discuss it with an open mind and out of the context of the bedroom and usually not right after something negative happened. why? mostly because males (most) feel trapped while in bed and feel as if he is cornered, as though he has no choice but to talk about what it is you want to talk about. yes, it sounds like a bunch of crap i know, but theres no denying evolution and where men came from, we are barbarians and even the most humble of us wants to perform excellent in bed. and as men we do not want to feel that we are being forced to do anything; unless thats what you like, haha.

and more than anything have fun with sex. its should not be a chore, a job, something that has to be done at a certain time, a certain day or a certain number of days. enjoy life and enjoy the lives that 2 people can share.

sex is what you make of it; much like life.

look at all those acronyms...we're surrounded

operative word being Serve.

what happened along the way? honestly, police, rather uniformed officers, are sworn to protect US, the citizens of the State and are sworn in BY that state. we trust them to do their job & protect us from the crazies and to keep a general order. right, right.

so why are we afraid of them, they serve to protect us, right? well, no. i am going to refer to a well known experiment; the Stanford Prison Experiment.

the long and short of it is that a Stanford professor got together a bunch of students for his experiment & separated them into 2 groups; Guards & Inmates. randomly selected of course, all these kids are Standford College students mind you, good kids (relatively speaking i’m sure)

basically this experiment proved that absolute power corrupts absolutely. within 24 hrs the guards acted just as guards would, harassing and beating the inmates. and withing 48 hours the inmates were falling right into place with everything doing exactly as they were told. amazing stuff, i’d say. again, i think what is important to note here is that they are all peers & students, all equal in most every way. but suddenly the group of guards held themselves to a higher ’status’ in society than the rest. and this is what is happening in the streets today as well. we have this micro-societies within the grand society. uniformed officers and other government employees (not all this is just a generalization) get to live in their own bubble, or Monkey Sphere if you will. how the hell do they get to live above the law of which they are sworn to protect and serve?! if no one else should be held accountable it should be the very people who uphold them. when did the balance of power shift? when did we stop counting on police to be kind, respectful people who are open minded & just?

a fellow blogger over at realpolitiks summed up the very point i am trying to illustrate:

‘The idea that people in special positions of power should also be granted special leeway when they abuse this power is ludicrous, and tantamount to institutionalizing injustice. Special power should always be subjected to special scrutiny, and justify its action, if that power is to be taken for anything but tyranny. ‘

ok, i was just about to hit the Publish button and i came upon something so ridiculous i just have to share it. i will copy and paste a small section from thesmokinggun (trackback below):

“While being fingerprinted, Cruz allegedly “lifted his leg and passed gas loudly on Ptlm. Parsons. The defendant then fanned the air with his hand in front of his rear onto” the cop. “The gas,” the complaint notes, “was very odorous and created contact of an insulting or provoking nature with Ptlm. Parsons.” In addition to the DUI count, Cruz was also charged with battery on a police officer for the farting incident”

for the love of everything in this world that we hold dear, how in the wholy shit did this man get CHARGED with FARTING on an officer?! since WHEN is can you be prosecuted for farting? where is this law? i want to read it! this is ridiculous. yes, read the article you will see the guy is not the best of people, but lets be logical here! so the officer was offended, yea, and?

people do NOT have the right NOT to be offended! im sure my girlfriends around the world are offended every day when their man farts in front of them, does that mean they can be charged with a misdemeanor?! where has common sense gone?! farting has to be covered in the constitution! we’ve been doing it since the beginning of time!

o man, what an emotional morning this has been! this kind of information infuriates me, and almost makes me consider a careerin politics….then i slap myself and snap back to reality.