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sad, but true

this is ridiculous. here is yet another example of the Police and how some of them believe that they are untouchable and, at least in this case, it’s no ones fault by own. (picture of officer pignato)

this all occurred in a suburb of Rochester, NY in the Greece Police Department; well that’s where it all ended, but certainly not where it all started.

the details are a little shady, as they want to protect the innocent, yet the story goes that roughly 3 months ago officer pignato responded to a domestic violence call and apparently extinguished the issue at that time. it was later that night when officer pignato returned to the house an coerced the young lady, who was allegedly involved in said domestic dispute, into having sex with him. now, as we all know sex must be consensual, if it is not it is then termed Rape. so we will assume that the reporter is simply a bit mixed up, but thats really inconsequential. an officer, a man in power, with what would seem to be absolute power, forced a young woman to have sex with him in order for her to avoid further legal prosecution. how bold an act from a man who has worked in law enforcement for at least 5+ years; so he is by no means a Rookie.

sadly, that is where the story ends and not begins. it begins roughly 4 years ago with the a complaint made towards officer Pig accusing him of using excessive force. one of the first complaints made towards him was made by a woman who approached Attorney Christine Agola and described, what i would consider one of the most heinous acts a man could commit:

settled. out of court. well its only the guilty settle. the guilty have everything to loose by going to court; by going to court they may be opening Pandoras box to the myriad of terrible deeds not yet known to the public. not the innocent. when innocent even if ones name had to be dragged through endless court proceedings, in the end, an innocent verdict would heal all wounds. it would serve the innocent man nothing to settle out of court. settlements make people appear guilty, it is simply the way of the courts. a innocent man hides nothing. above all else, this man (accused of) beat a pregnant woman. how do you put your hands on a woman to do her harm in the first place, let alone a pregnant woman?

the Greece police chief has this to say: “Five years from now they’re not going to remember it’s the Greece Police department it’s going to be a police officer, so it’s going to be a black eye on all law enforcement.” no, you foolish, foolish man. they will remember. this is the second occurance (read about the 2nd one in the next paragraph) in less than 2 months where Greece Police Officers have injured pregnant women. they WILL remember that it was the Greece Police – the Rochester City Police are already known for using excessive force, IN GENERAL. in Canandaigua, NY they are known for pulling people over for going but 3 MPH over the speed limit, and so on and so forth. different towns police officials are known for different things; congratulations on being known, or at the very least associated with the beating and assaulting of pregnant women.

as i said above, this is not the first case of power abuse that the Greece police dept has seen. in fact, this is the second case within the past 2 months. this one involves Greece Sergeant Nicholas Joseph; a sergeant this time, 2 rankings ABOVE officer (i believe the hierarchy is Officer~> Detective ~> Sergeant ~> Lieutenant) Sergeant Joseph has been indited on charges that he fled a crash while off duty. said crash injured a, you guessed it PREGNANT Rochester woman and caused her to go into premature labor. not only did he flee the scene of the crime, in total he is charged “with aggravated vehicular assault, second-degree assault, leaving the scene of a personal injury accident, operating a motor vehicle while ability impaired by alcohol and cocaine, seventh-degree criminal possession of a controlled substance, and perjury.” Sergeant Joseph is 43 years old; 43 years and still no sense of responsibility.

what is happening in our towns and cities when our most terrible of crimes against each other are committed by the very same people who are sworn to protect and serve us? it seems to me that the majority of these police officers and sergeants are a bit self serving.

there is now and will always be police and officials in power, there is no escaping it. what we must do to protect ourselves is to make sure that when crimes are committed by Sworn Protectors of the Public & Public servants that they face the same, hard consequences that we would, if not harder. they should NEVER receive special treatment because they may be police officers; on the contrary they should be held to an even higher standard because of it.

the only kind of marriage there is!

this was the best definition i could find:

The state of being married; The union of a man and a woman, to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life; A wedding; A close union; A joining of two parts; A king and a queen as a starting hand in Texas hold ‘em (source)

‘…for life’, sounds to me like a jail term. so, what’s the deal with marriage? why do we all, most of society at least, believe that should be married? let us say, for example, that you were to gather up 20 people from the streets (of relatively the same age), bring them into a room and ask them where they see their life going in, say 10-15 years – i would venture to say that at least 90% of those people would say that they see marriage in their future. but why?

the root of this topic, i believe, dates back to the days of our childhood as well, boys and girls alike. in hearing our parents talk about marriage, seeing it on TV, daughters lead to believe that their wedding day is the most important day of their lives…yadda yadda. but, i ask again, why? here are some of the benefits i could find floating around the interwebs:

Social Security: alright, so you’ve always got someone hang around with, spend time with and effectively, spend your life with. one certainly does not need to be married to spend a lifetime with someone.

Financial Security: people do get married for money. it’s a very sad truth, but none-the-less the truth; i say pre-nup, but whatever the case. there are certain situations where it is beneficial to be married, and i do not mean getting married to a someone filthy rich. once you are married things change legally and because of that there are certain beneficial financial aspects, but certainly not worth giving anyone full power over you; after all a marriage is nothing else if not a contractual agreement, break it by sleeping with someone who’s name is not on that special piece of paper, and BAM you can be sued and held liable for sleeping with someone.

Caring Security: this goes hand in hand with Social security; someone who is always there to care for you and about you and with you. well, we’ve all got mothers, they can do the very same thing. but aside from that, a friend will do the very same for you, not an acquaintance a true friend; or another family member, perhaps a brother, sister, cousin – the list is endless really.

Sexual Security: this one is pretty straight forward, but i’m not married and i have sexual security. also, i would venture to guess that there are more married couples who suffer sexually then there are single or not-married couples

then, some people use the ‘declare our love to the world‘ excuse. again, why? why is it so important to us what the world knows the intricate details of our own personal relationships? do you believe that the world cares to know that you have declared your love and wed? No. i know that, personally i have enough to worry about with my own relationships than to be worried about whom among my friends is married or not; or who’s had children out of ‘wedlock’. does it matter? No. if two people are truly in love with each other, love spending time with each other, understand each other and fit together then why should they be married? what if they drift apart? people do fall OUT of love just as often a they do fall INTO love. and i believe this is something that is not realized enough. people may drift apart, they may mature at a rate different than their partner, they may have made the wrong decision or made it in haste, whatever the reason is, why would one take a something as complicated as a relationship and make is ever more-so? and then to bring money and possessions into it? what a hassle. our entire lives we will be making important relationships, perhaps relationships that are more important than marriage and more importantly, we will be breaking and loosing those relationships. the ones we have in high school, in college, the relationships we have with certain co-workers at a specific place of employ – always making and breaking relationships, but theres no monies or houses lost, no tears, its a fact of life, not all relationships will last forever. and most certainly not the ones you think will last forever.

society has put the idea in ours heads that there is one, true love for each and every one of us. lets say, for a moment, there is some truth in that. what gave anyone the idea that they would find their one true love in the US (or their country of origin)? the world is so vast we will never meet even 1/4 of the opposite sex that is out there to possibly be our soul mate; statistically speaking there is no way in the world that we could possibly find the one person that completes us; and speaking from a….i dont know, anthropological standpoint (?) as males we are programmed to spread our seed! to get out there and make sure we populate the earth! (no, i am not giving males permission to sleep around, im just stating what i must)

trust is love. we trust in our significant other that we love them and they love us. that they will not sleep around. that they will not do anything to hurt us.
they will always be there for us, care for us. help us when we need them. thats a relationship not a marriage.

i am not saying marriage is bad, simply not for everyone. if you are in love with someone and you do not foresee ever leaving them and, perhaps you enjoy the ceremonial aspect of marriage, then by all means feel free and marry up!

there is always a choice. you can be head over heels in love without being married.

body language is one of those things that effects most people on a sub conscious level; either if they are the one exhibiting the behavior of are on the receiving end. ive come to notice body language mostly by accident; i am a generally quiet person and whilst i may not say much, i am always watching people and their body language. a sociology class i took a while back the professor noted he enjoyed ‘people watching’ and i really never understood why up until this year.

the way in which we interact with people has a great deal as to the way that person feels when around us. here are a few things to watch, body language wise:

• Timing and duration of emotional gestures and emotions are off a normal pace. The display of emotion is delayed, stays longer it would naturally, then stops suddenly
• Timing is off between emotions gestures/expressions and words. Example: Someone says “I love it!” when receiving a gift, and then smile after making that statement, rather then at the same time the statement is made.
• Gestures/expressions don’t match the verbal statement, such as frowning when saying “I love you.”
• A guilty person gets defensive

• A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head or body away.

• A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: “ I didn’t do it” instead of “I did not do it”

• The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince you… they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation. – - – i find this one to be the most helpful when attempting to nail someone who i am not sure of deceit; if you allow pauses in conversation you will notice that if a person is lying they will be very uncomfortable with the pauses and will attempt to provide more details, as if what they had already provided was no sufficient; when they do this have a watchful ear on what exacally they say, liers often mix their words and make it very possible for you to use what they have said to your own advantage.

• Use HUMOR – i use Humor a lot, actually i’m a sarcastic assassin, if you will. i do find that at times i can be a bit overly critical, which is difficult for me and i am trying to work on it. but try humor, you can tell someone that they were wrong without killing their self confidence; or you could just not tell them they were wrong, sometimes i opt for that course of action myself.

heres a few more tid bits:

whenever your hands are crossed you exhibit a guarded stance. don’t do it. don’t touch your face. hold nothing in front of your face. use your hands like your a full blooded italian (describing things and such, keep them off the face and not crossed!), keep eye contact but dont stare anyone down. lastly for this section i will say – - – it is not easy to control the majority of these things. they are probably ingrained habits and are things that are now done habitually, take your time with these. it is more a mind over matter issue than anything. just as an example – i have to use some sort of hair product in my hair, and not so much to style it, but more so because when i get frustrated or excited about a subject i will run my ahnds through my hair or scratch the back of my head; putting the product in allows me stop and think twice.

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