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Happiness. What a chore, right?
I think too often we forget that Happiness is an active choice. One that we must make each day. Why? Because it is the choice we are given. Happiness or sadness? Joy or misery? Love or Hate? It all boils down to choosing to be Happy.
I think that the ultimate choice is Love or Hate/ Fear. We hate what we fear and fear what we hate. I believe the great and late Bill Hicks said it best: “ A choice, right now, between fear and love. The eyes of fear want you to put bigger locks on your doors, buy guns, close yourselves off. The eyes of love, instead, see all of us as one. ” Source
It can be a constant struggle to be happy. But what a wonderful struggle it is! We all have struggles, every day. Bills, family, friends, work, pets, lover’s, ect. We are all struggling. How many of us struggle with Happiness? Struggle to be happy? Struggle to Choose to be happy? I wonder why?
No, I don’t. I think I know why. Because it is easy to be miserable! Have you ever stopped to think about it? Miserable people are that way because they choose to be. May be it was something in their long forgotten past, maybe it was a lost love, a lost life, whatever it was chances are it’s past. We should look back, but only in the same way that we rewind a movie. You can’t restart a movie you’ve already seen and start it from the beginning, can you? What was seen cannot be unseen. Just like in life, what has been done cannot be undone. What we can do is learn from it. Rewind life sometimes, think back and remember. Remember being happy, remember being sad, remember good times and bad, remember it all. It is all important, but we mustn’t dwell. I believe we must use our past and allow it to shape Who we want to be in the Present. Because, don’t forget, who you are is a choice. I don’t think a lot of people like to be reminded of this. After all, who would want to be reminded that they are the only cause for their problems?
Negativity seems to always be knocking on the door. You can’t escape it. It is a self perpetuating cycle and at times feels as though you can’t breath. It starts small, an overdue bill here, a late one there. Next thing you know your health starts to suffer, then you start to slip deeper and deeper into the Hell that is Negativity. So, stop. It isn’t that easy, but that’s the start. Just Stop. Begin with telling yourself who you are. Why you are and what you have accomplished. And not about your Audi in the garage, your sweet $1.5 million dollar house or your new iPad Gen 46. Who are you, really? Who have you helped? Who reaches out to help you? What, do you think, makes you tick? It’s OK if you don’t know the answers. The first step toward figuring yourself out sometimes is finding out you don’t know who you are. That part can be scary; but this too shall pass.
The road to happiness is not a easy road to take. But the road to misery, self loathing, hatred, pity and jealousy is wide and welcoming. I find often in life the most difficult of decisions or of task’s is usually a sign that one is on the right path.
We have been separated, segregated, individualized and compartmentalized to a point where we are Individuals, instead of a group of people, all working toward the same goal. Love is the answer. No matter the question. Love will solve it. Problem is a co-worker? Try to see their point of view, maybe they have trouble at home or interpersonal strife. Quick to judge and not quick to Love? (I know this is me, well too often) Quick to ridicule and laugh instead of support and Love? It seems that Love is almost always the best answer.
Peace & Love.
